Togetherness, separateness, spontaneity, predictability, and more...

-> love -> understanding -> acceptance -> love ->

Love is a continual process, but sometimes it can be hard to figure out.  Time together -- time apart, spontaneity -- predictability, excitement -- stability.  What do we do when we need these equally important, yet opposing elements in our relationship?  How do we resolve our differences without escalating or withdrawing?  What do we do if we have hit a wall or experienced a breach in trust?  

My first priority in couple therapy is to create a safe space for you both to slow things down & de-escalate.  I will help you communicate together, so that each of you feel heard, understood, and accepted.  From there, we will collaboratively identify the emotional needs underlying the negative interactions.  When you discover & understand the true nature of a conflict pattern, there is an ability to figure things out.  I will be your experienced guide on the trail, keeping the work accessible & safe, so that new ways of being together can be co-created... so that you can experience clarity, relief, closeness and success.  

It may be good for you to know that couple therapy is a specialty, and choosing a licensed marriage & family therapist with specific expertise in the science of couple therapy is important.  I am an Emotionally Focused Therapist, which means I have invested in years of advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples  (EFT Externship, Core Skills, consultation groups, workshops, supervision).   

Whether you are struggling with conflict, withdrawal, lack of connection or extramarital affair, get in touch with me for effective support.  All couples are welcome.